Build Charisma and Charm Your Way to the Top

Charisma is a person's ability to influence other people in a rather positive way. It is accomplished by connecting with them physically, intellectually, and emotionally. Charisma is all about relationship and how people regard you.

Charisma can definitely be developed. Anyone can add more to his or her persona. And being charismatic has a lot of advantages. The most of common of which is the possibility of being chosen the leader of a group.

There are ways you can improve your charisma. Just always remember that charisma is not something you are born with; it is something you develop. Here are some ways you can work on improving it. 

1. Improve your physical health. Charisma has a lot to do with your image and how people see you. That is why your physical health and hygiene is very important. Always strive to look good, neat, and appealing. This will be your first real step in achieving your goal.

2. Carry yourself effectively. As you pass by, you should give off a certain air of confidence. Looking at the ground at all times is not going to help. Hold your head erect and look other people in the eye. Don't forget to smile as often as you can.

3. Improve the way you speak. Public speaking and the power of persuasion should come in full force. Oral communication skills matter a lot. Talk with assurance. Modulate your voice as necessary and express your views whenever appropriate.

4. Listen better. Speaking all the time is not good. As a future leader, you should also be good at listening to what other people have to say. Listening does not simply mean you stop talking and let somebody else do it. It means you pay attention so that you fully comprehend what the other person wants to impart.

5. Become an avid reader. A lot of charisma points are added to people who seem to know a lot. Stimulate the intellect of others. Start a good conversation and keep it going. You need not be an expert on a lot of things. Knowing a little bit about many subjects is good enough.

6. Teach others. Volunteer your proficiency. If there are things that you are really capable of, do not hesitate to take on the chance to share them with others. Knowledge shared is a lot more fulfilling than knowledge acquired. Keep this in mind at all times.

If you want to be successful, charisma is one of the traits you cannot do without. Charisma can definitely take you places. Improve on it as much as possible because the benefits are immeasurable.

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Life at it"s Best: Develop Your Leadership Skills.

Interesting works: Develop Your Leadership Skills.: From Manager to Leader.           Ask anyone and they'll tell you. There's a difference between managers and leaders. Ask them wha...

Develop Your Leadership Skills.

From Manager to Leader

Ask anyone and they'll tell you. There's a difference between managers and leaders.

Ask them what that difference is and they may have a bit more difficulty. Suddenly the words become amorphous and undefined. Somehow leadership is an intangible - a charismatic component that some people have and others simply don't. That's why, according to the ubiquitous "they", it is such a rarity.

Wrong.

The difference between being a manager and being a leader is simple. Management is a career. Leadership is a calling.

You don't have to be tall, well-spoken and good looking to be a successful leader. You don't have to have that "special something" to fulfil the leadership role.

What you have to have is clearly defined convictions - and, more importantly, the courage of your convictions to see them manifest into reality. Only when you understand your role as guide and steward based on your own most deeply held truths can you move from manager to leader.

Whether the group you oversee is called employees, associates, co-workers, team-mates or anything else, what they are looking for is someone in whom they can place their trust. Someone they know is working for the greater good - for them and for the organization. They're looking for someone not only that they can - but that they want to - follow.

Because it is only when you have followers -people who have placed their trust in you - that you know you have moved into that leadership role. And the way you see it is that your organization is transcending all previous quality, productivity, innovation and revenue achievements. You're operating at such a high level of efficiency that you're giving budget back to the corporation - and you're still beating your goals.

You're achieving what you always dreamed could be achieved. And not only that, but it's actually easier than you thought.

Because you're a leader. Because the classic command and control management model - which, contrary to popular belief still applies even in our most progressive 21st century companies - is no longer in play. Sure, controls are in place. Sure, you're solving problems that arise.

But it's not just you alone. You have the people in whom you've put your trust - and who have happily and safely reciprocated - to help you create organizational success.

Next > The steps YOU can take to become a leader

First Steps

Where to start? Begin by discovering exactly what your convictions are. Clarify and codify for yourself what you believe in. Then, take a nice step back and see how those beliefs are playing out in the organization as it stands today.

Don't start with an organizational assessment based on the numbers or your opinions about others. This is not about "them." This is all about you.

Ask yourself:

·         What is important to me? What are my values, beliefs, ethics?

·         How am I demonstrating those values, beliefs and ethics every day?

·         Is the larger organization designed to support my values, beliefs and ethics?

·         Where are the disconnects ¡V within my immediate organization and for myself with the larger enterprise?

·         What can I do to change how I behave with my immediate organization to demonstrate my belief in them?

·         What additional assistance do my employees need to succeed ¡V and how can I ensure that they get everything they need and more to create personal and organizational success?

Realistically, you'll go through this process not once, but many, many times. This is a periodic reality and cross-check to see how you're doing in your own context and, as you begin making changes, in the larger context.

Because, while you can and should expect yourself and your immediate organization to make changes, you cannot - and should not - expect the larger organization to immediately respond or follow suit. This is a personal journey designed to assist you in being more - and helping those whose lives you touch to be more. Give the organization time. It'll get there. It's just a little bit slow.

What's Next?

As you identify your convictions and begin aligning your behaviors with those convictions, you are going to need to take steps to build a collaborative culture based on where you're going.

To do that, seek input from your employees about what they need and what their dreams are for their jobs and the larger organization. (They have them, you know). Talk to internal and external customers and suppliers about their needs. Find out what more and what else you can be and do to create success.

Enroll and engage in conversation and communication. Sit back. Listen. Take in as much as you can. Look for trends and themes. Find out where the possibilities are - the connects and disconnects that you can effect.

Be more. Be all those things you always believed about yourself - and usually bring to the rest of your life.

Leaders aren't made or born. Leadership is a choice - a belief in and commitment to everything that is good and noble within you.

Be a leader.



 Thanks to  Leslie L. Kossoff for some of the words.

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

 2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

 3. Life is too short – enjoy it.

 4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

 5. Pay off your credit cards every month. 

 6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

 7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

 8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it. 

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck. 

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile. 

 11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present. 

 12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

 13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

 14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

 15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye,but don't worry, God never blinks. 

 16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

 17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

 18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

 19. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

 20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

 21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special 

occasion. Today is special.

 22. Over prepare, then go with the flow. 

 23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

 24. The most important sex organ is the brain. 

 25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

 26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

 27. Always choose life.

 28. Forgive 

 29. What other people think of you is none of your business. 

 30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time. 

 31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 

 32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. 

 33. Believe in miracles. 

 34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do. 

 35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now. 

 36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young. 

 37. Your children get only one childhood. 

 38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved. 

 39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere. 

 40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back. 

 41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.

 42. The best is yet to come... 

 43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. 

 44. Yield. 

 45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio

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Will Rise Again

It does not matter what you may be passing through, let this mind be in you "though you fall, you will surely rise again". You were not design to be defeated neither were you designed to be frustrated. You are strong, wise, intelligent and powerful. once i was told 'NO MAN CAN TAKE YOUR BOW FROM YOU EXCEPT YOU GIVE IT OUT'. Never give up on yourself. You may fall but you will definitely rise again. Put up a smile now and say that to yourself.Love you. 

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Moving ahead with a single SMILE.

So how do i make life better with a smile?

1.Position your smile as the best rapport building tool. The smile is one of the most important strategies in dealing with people in all walks of life and is an important means for building and establishing rapport. Given the reality that our enjoyment of life depends to a great extent on how we manage and connect with people, a sincere smile is always the best strategy to build and establish rapport. The smile maintains attention, helps bolster open body language, and reassures the other person of your sincerity. Be the first to smile; don't wait for others!

2.Position your smile to break down walls of indifference.

We all have our individuality and preferences as to what kind of people we'd like to hang out with. Sometimes people carry with them preconceived ideas about people and respond to them based simply on how they look, carry themselves, or dress. While this response of building invisible walls around a person for the sake of self-preservation is normal for many people, and is something to respect when interacting with others, it doesn't stop you from being able to use the smile as a way to melt the walls of indifference.

3.Use your smile to affect choices positively. A bad mood usually results in facial characteristics reflecting the negative feelings, including a frown, furrowed face lines, and perhaps a scowling demeanor. A smile changes the equation immediately. And in so doing, choosing to smile instead of frown can influence your choices about everything else you do that day. A smile can brighten your mood, improve your outlook, and lead you to make positive choices using sound and good judgment.

4.Change lives with your smile.

Smile affects things and lives around us. People, pets, and even the systems in which we work and socialize are at the mercy of our treatment. When we smile, our mood brightens up and affects our responses towards both beings and objects. The positivity that emanates from relying on the smile to guide our way helps us to love our life, and to be inspired to treat others with kindness and compassion, realizing that all beings matter and that smooth-running systems make life easier. Our pets deserve our kindness, out wilting potted plants deserve watering and weeding, and the people we meet each and every day deserve our warmth and appreciation. The smile's after effect? Love, kindness, gentleness, goodness and compassion start to flow out from you as a perfectly natural response.
5.Position your smile to give hope. Some people find that when they are hurt and fall into despair, they tend to become negative and seek to manage the world so as to minimize their interactions to avoid being harmed again. In doing so, they can withdraw and find life meaningless and cruel. A well timed and caring smile could give such unhappy people a glimpse of hope as they see that another person does care and does find this life meaningful. A smile means that they can share that meaning. Lift their mood with your smile, the smile of hope.
6.Share your attitude.

A smile could be an indication of a great attitude. Smiling is one of the best responses towards mistakes and failures; that kind of smile says "D'oh! I am so human!". Using humor in the face of shortcomings shows a great attitude and at the same time wisdom. Smile, brighten up and be wiser the next time around!

7.Know peace, share peace. A smile is a powerful tool for peace. It is a powerful gift and is one that can help to initiate and maintain peace through its expression of love, understanding, humility, and kindness. Smiles in the family create unity and acceptance; smiles in the face of danger express a determination to overcome hardship with a level head and a kind heart. Smiles can hold together a nation and a world, in peace. Smile, and it will be a great life ahead!

Let joy fill your days.